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In Praise of Polyandry

There has been recent public debate about polygamy - where a man marries more than one woman - but psychotherapist RENATE OGILVIE is a champion of polyandry - where a woman marries more than one man.

In the midst of plenty there is a feeling of end-time. And befitting degenerate times, all the old certainties are going out of the window. It is getting harder and harder to harmonize the points of view that keep contradicting each other. Left-wing and tolerating the crimes of Chinese commu-capitalism, eco and wearing health sandals produced by German neo-Nazi supporters, multi-culti and having to defend female circumcision and the stoning of rape victims - it's all too much.

How refreshing then to be confronted with the certainties of Islam. Not the fundamentalists of course, everyone agrees they are bad, bad, bad. No, just those of our Australian neighbours. Those who may still shy away from Sunday brunch in the cafes of the Shire. But feeling safe enough to appear on Aussie TV and suggesting polygamy.

This was a big surprise, and as a liberal feminist one didn't know whether to laugh with delight, or cry and gnash one's teeth. It is surely a huge cause for celebration that in the general atmosphere of hysteria about Muslims a serious debate is possible about something so provocative.

There was a moment's feeling of pride in our still functioning pluralist society. Then the suspicion: is the reason for the astonishingly serious discussion that Aussie men themselves dream of having more than one wife? The mind boggles - surely not two or more Macquarie bankers for example!

Nor was this suggested by the proponents. It was more about a barren wife not producing ‘what a man is entitled to - a son to carry on the family name' (quote from memory), or about providing for women who would otherwise stay unwed and poor.

I accept the uselessness of barren wives - who wouldn‘t,  but suspect that one can provide for women out of compassion without necessarily sleeping with them. Macquarie bankers of course wouldn't need the money anyway but might like the sex.

While anecdotal evidence suggests that it is indeed hard for Sydney women to find a husband, in the end it seems unlikely that the idea of polygamy will jump the cultural divide. Why would a woman share her precious Aussie bloke with other high achievers, and opt for endless discussions about what shares to buy, where to holiday, and whether it's the Prius or the people mover. Sex might be interesting of course, but all serious lovers will confirm that other combinations might be even more fun.

Which brings me to my own  proposition - polyandry. A road less travelled, I admit. But surely worth pursuing in these multi-cultural times. Marrying more than one man in times of scarcity could become a drop-dead status symbol, rather like filling up a Hummer on a Friday. And better than being squashed on the backseat of a Getz with all those other barren women.

Renate Ogilvie is a psychotherapist and teacher of Buddhist philosophy.

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